It's really important to have gals pals in your life to just chill and have a good time with. Take some time off from intense psychosexual roleplay and make some space for just chilling with your friends.
Here's a few ideas for a fun night in with your gal pal.
Cooking together is something that people sometimes associate with a romantic connection, but don't sweat it. You can cook together as friends, or take turns cooking for each other and it doesn't have to be anything more than that. Save on dishes by eating out of the same bowl. Just check in first about STD status since eating or drinking after someone can spread some illnesses such as herpes or hepatitis.
If you really want to have those good gal pal feelings with your platonic bestie, try feeding each other your favorite desert with a tiny spoon.
No, not like that! Sleeping side by side with your gal pal is sure to make you both feel really cozy and relaxed. Some gal pals are deep sleepers and will spoon right through the night, while others might toss and turn or lie sleeplessly awake. There's no wrong way to sleep with your friends. Just make sure to have a clear understanding of boundaries and consent. Check in about what kinds of touch and cuddling are good for each other, and ask often what the other person wants and is comfortable with.
Consider not just sleeping with her, but also with her wife. Getting to know them and their relationship is a great way to know more about the wonderful connection your gal pal has with her loved ones. And who knows, her wife might also want to be your gal pal!
This is a tricky activity even for the bestest of friends. What do you do when your bestie is occupying all of your idle thoughts and your memories of them bring back the sensation of their touch and the light of their smile as if they were right there with you? Well I've got news for you — you're in love with your gal pal! No need to worry though, gal pals fall in love with each other all the time. Tell her about all the beautiful platonic feelings you've been having for her. It's best to be completely honest, even if it's a little bit scary. If she has these feelings back at you then that's all the better. And if not, well... the feelings will whither like an unwatered houseplant and after a little bit of mourning you'll be okay. It's all part of the beauty of friendship.
Spend some quality time with your gal pal by doing a craft project together. You can make your own crafts while just sitting together or find a collaborative project that you can both be proud of. Knitting, sewing, crochet and modular origami are just a few creative outlets that gal pals have been bonding over since the dawn of time.
Any of your favorite tales can be told at story time. Whether you're telling stories from memory or reading them from a book, any story that you find to be compelling is a sure winner for story time. Maybe a story about a woman who shares your deepest woes, or an excerpt from your ex's favorite book that you once shared as a foundation of that relationship. Or maybe something lighthearted like a childrens' book with a surprisingly deep moral. Whatever it is, share it earnestly and your gal pal is sure to appreciate your story.
Is there going to be a solar eclipse aligned with a comet and Jupiter in the sky all at the same time? Or maybe just a meteor shower? Good news! This is just the sort of thing that you and your gal pal can bond over. Whether you're wasted at a Waffle House, knee-deep in mud and screaming at a blind god, or just laying on a picnic blanket under the stars, viewing special astronomical events with your platonic special someone is a great way to feel connected.
This is a special game just for gal pals. To play, click "Spin the wheel" to decide what feeling you and your gal pal are going to experience. Take a few seconds to think about a situation, real or fictional, that you want to roleplay for this pair of feelings. For example, if you get "angry" and she gets "guilty", then you could roleplay that she forgot your friendiversary and you're really pissed about it. The possibilities are endless!
You feel: ???
She feels: ???
If you find yourself idly picking ambient tones on the guitar, and your gal pal keeps making meaningful eye contact as if it's the most perfectly beautiful thing she's ever heard, it's time for a duet! Let her play if she wants, and find a song you can both sing together. It doesn't have to sound very good, as long as you're both having a good time.
Bonus points if you're doing this around your family so they all know what good gal pals you are!
Having the first kiss with your gal pal is a big moment, and you want to make sure it's special. Don't be afraid to ask her when the moment is right, and don't worry if she says not now: she wants to find the perfect time for this special moment.
If it never seems to be the right moment, maybe try having a first kiss date. This is where you come up with a whole day or evening of activities that lead you to the perfect moment. Maybe it's right at sunset on your favorite grassy hill. Or maybe light a candle in complete darkness and kiss the moment it burns out. It's up to you and her, just make sure to make it special.
What would your gal pal be if she didn't know your true name? It's true that this is a pretty scary thing to do, but scary things can be the most rewarding! Sharing your true name with your gal pal is a great way to show her that you really trust her and expect to be her friend forever.
I know what you're thinking — I can't have sex with my gal pal! Well I have news for you: you don't have to have sex to have an orgasm. It's just a function of the emotional body, like crying or laughing, that consenting adults can experience together on any terms they want. And you don't have any hangups about expressing your feelings around your gal pal, do you?
Talk with her honestly about what you like to feel when you get off. Ask her for what you want, and be okay with a "no" if she doesn't want to do this with you. Also be clear whether you'll both be having an orgasm this time or if the focus is on one or the other. If you get sleepy after you come then you wouldn't want her to be disappointed.
Once you're both ready to go and in a place where you feel comfortable, get on with it! And don't worry if the orgasm doesn't happen before you get tired, just try again another time and talk about all the good feelings you had along the way.